Men don't pick us, we pick men- regardless of the circumstances in which we meet. You ALLOW them to enter your life, your realm, your sphere. A wise hue-man once made the analogy of a magnet versus all other elements. I'm going to remix it make a point. Black woman, you are the magnet, the men are the other elements. It's a fact that when any other element comes in contact with a magnet it becomes a little magnetic (if only for a short period of time). The magnet remains a magnet but some of it has been "rubbed" off on this OTHER element, giving/lending it a little magnetic power.
With that in mind, have you ever been in a (bad) relationship or "situation" where the man either drains you, sucks you dry of your energy, leaves you feeling less than? This is because you've gotten into a situation with the wrong "element." He's sucking all the good goodness that you naturally poses and living off of it like a leech. You don't notice it because it's a gradual/systematic/subconscious process. HE might not even know he's doing it-but some men do. Slowly but surely, your magnet is losing the strength of it's magnetic pull, you're light is dimming, and you're wondering how/why you feel the way you feel: worse off than when you got into the "relationshit."
Don't allow anyone to dim your light, tarnish your magnet.
You ARE a queen, act accordingly.
PostQuote: "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any"