I’m 100% sure that if we change ourselves, we have the ability to change the world. Why am I so bold to say change the world? Here’s my train of thought:
- black woman changes/reinstates her true standards=
- black man has no choice but to (eventually) oblige=
- black family gets stronger, and is more prevalent
- black family=strong values, morals, goals, pride, REAL education=
- less fatherless children= less black juvenile delinquents, teen pregnancies
- black family= important= less foolishness (b/c more to live for) =less (adult black male) jailbirds
- once the black family in in tact...there is NO stopping us!=
- then comes the stronger black community...again there is NO stopping us!=
- more black owned/supported businesses
- then we’re taking over!
The rest of this may not be cohesive because I am emphatically overzealous about this topic so here it goes. MMMAAAAAY sound like a rant, THAAAAT’S because it is....
We first need to respect ourselves, our sisters AND our brothers.
Just the rudiments of self-respect will change your world, and the world around us. I promise. You won’t take ish from anyone, because you respect yourself enough not to. You won’t let people walk all over you, because they obviously don’t respect you, and you KNOW the respect you deserve. You’ll have a different outlook on life. Surround yourself with respectful people. No more drama. You’ll have a new strut a new walk. You’ll attract a-whole-nother breed of people in your life. Your light will shine brighter than ever before.
But first let’s discuss a few factors...How do we get this self-respect?
- how we dress
- your body is NOT the only thing you have to offer men. REALLY, it’s not. You’re soooo much more sis. TRUST!!! Nor do/should you need that male attention to validate you. AGAIN, you’re soo much more than that. Think about it, if that’s the attention you seek, exactly WHAT kind of man do you think you’ll reel in slinging THAT bait? The one who wants to objectify and use you, that’s who.
- how we speak to/about each other
- cursing is NEVER ladylike. try to keep it at a minimum.
- when’s the last time when a sister walked into a room, you greeted her with a smile instead of checking her out and assessing how much of the threat she may be in the inter-room dating pool
- How we act
- can we GET anymore divisive?
- respect is a verb, not just a noun.
- cursing people out in public, is not an option. be civil. get your point across eloquently as effectively without the added drama. realize that people WANT to see you act a fool. People pray on your downfall. All you’re doing is giving them the pleasure of getting under your skin. Recognize that’s ALL it is. Scoff. And move on.
- how we dance in the club....like, seriously!
- “chivalry is dead” ...the hell if it is. WE allowed it to vanish. WE allowed men to get comfortable NOT opening doors for us (store doors, restaurant doors, car doors etc)
- if we’d just stand outside the place until he opens it, he’ll damn sure come around and open it.
- I MEAN EVERY WOMAN....EVERYWHERE
- if we ALL wait for a door to be opened, I GUARANTEE a man will open it
- yeah we might be standing outside of a few places, or loosing relationships along the way but it’s for the greater good. I look at it like sit-ins.
- There was an inequality that was going on. One person/group of people refused to move until they were served. They might not have been served that day but these demonstrations were for their and generations to come to be able to reap the benefits of their tenacity.
All it takes is one person at a time to realize their role in the grander scheme of things. And once we’re all on the same page, at the same time, there’s no limit to what can come of it.
Call it over-ambitious, call it being true to my piscean ways, call it whatever you want. But until I see it tried and failed, this is what I will believe until the day I die. And will be a living example. I challenge you to join me.