Randomness: "Settling Down"

I don't like the phrase settling down. 'Yeah man, when I'm ready to settle down, I'll...', 'yeah, I'm about ready to settle down'

Settle ...down

Settle ...down

Settle as in to accept the conditons/options left with/remaining

Down as in lower, less, beneath, under, less than

So is this to say you accept the lower conditions u are left with? Are you just taking what's left in the barrel for keeps because that's your last resort?

I for one will no longer use the phrase for it has extremely negative connotations. Making a commitment to someone shouldn't be expressed as 'settling down.' It should be celebrated in a way to show this person's love/ commitment for another person....that he/she is mature enough to make this conscious, informed definitive decision in choosing a mate.

This phrase is a subconscious manipulation of the unity b/w man and woman. It's a complimentary unity and is supposed to be a purposeful decision, not 'picking at left-overs' of your life. I just think we should be more mindful of the diction we choose to use. Words have SO much more power for which we give them credit.

That is all

To My Brothas, My (Hue)Men, My Kings

As "Father's Day" approaches, I am compelled to dedicate an entry to our brothers- single, married, or anywhere in betwixt the two.  As long as you're soundly productive, I have nothing but love and respect for you.  I'd like to applaud all the brothers out there who are "doing right," making moves, aspiring, growing, building foundations, keeping their word, holding things down, being a provider...and ALL the wonderful things YOU DO so well.

I am a HUGE fan of black men. There is nothing on this PLANET like them. They come in all different shapes, sizes and flavors. Their "swagga" is unmatched. They are extremely resourceful, go-getters, street smart, creative, huslter-minded (not always a bad thing). They "keep it 100."  Once they let you in, you're IN. They work hard, play hard and most of all love hard.  There is absolutely nothing like a black man in love. It's amazing to feel/see the mountains he would climb and the oceans he would swim for YOU. 

..::in the painting above, he's portrayed giving you the world::..

Note to my sistas: 

Sistas, if you have a good one on your hands, I say, grab on and hold tight. Not only that, let him know YOU KNOW you have a good man on your hands. Show and SPEAK your appreciation for who he is and what he does for you. There are SOO many hardships that come with being a black man in America- in day to day life and over time. We would NEVER know because we are not black men. These things occur in the physical and psychologically.  Try to keep this in mind the next time you want to "nag" about something insignificant. Adding annoyances: never good. SIDEBAR:I think that women of this day and age have become self-righteous; specifically, the ones who say/said they don't need a man for anything. Being independent is definitely a strength but knowing when and how to let down your guard/pride down to yield to a (worthy) man is more powerful. It speaks volumes. There is no yin without yang. Know that. 

If you happen to be lucky enough as to share a child with a black man please do EVERYthing in your power to keep that unit in tact, for the sake of the child you brought into the world. There is NOTHING like (healthy) black love and NOTHING like a (healthy) black family.

Peace.