AHA Moment: Perspective

Peace Queens,

I had to share this with you all.

So my book club is reading Hill Harper's "The Conversation." A book about black relationships. This man drops gems "all up & thru" this book. Pick it up! I'm not sure if I'm late or WHAT! But this message resonated with me. I've heard it several times from several outlets but this time it was heavy!

In the chapter "The Language of Men," Harper mentions how his friend wasn't raised around men so she may not be able to speak "the language of men" with ease.

The Aha moment happened just in that small reference. I, too, was not raised around men so this makes SO MUCH SENSE.

I have a limited perspective on "the language of men," the way in which they communicate, small idiosyncrasies, etc. Things that make men, men. The types of things a young girl would notice, recognize, learn, absorb, then subsequently understand as an adult woman. As an adult, I now realize that this "language of men" may be confusing, misleading, or foreign, but as long as I am cognizant that there IS an inherent difference, I open myself to possibilities, growth, understanding, and love. There ARE differences. No one's better or worse, just different. THIS is what I admire, respect, and appreciate. And in some ways, find beauty in. *swoon*

This is where I come to you all to spread the word that we have to be knowledgeable of where our point of view/awareness/understanding has its limitations. It will alleviate so much (potential) pain and confusion. From this, we can gain understanding and consciously push ourselves to have more patience with our brothers.

There is beauty in our differences. We just have to be willing to learn what they are, understand them and show compassion. THEN we can move forward, grow, create legacies and take over the world...but I digress. :)

Books like "Act Like a Man, Think Like a Woman" and "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" are sharing a similar message, but for some reason that small reference hit me in a special place.

Whether I'm late or not, I'm glad to have made this discovery/epiphany/overstanding. Life is all about those anyway, right?!

Peace Fam!

xoxo

Randomness: "Settling Down"

I don't like the phrase settling down. 'Yeah man, when I'm ready to settle down, I'll...', 'yeah, I'm about ready to settle down'

Settle ...down

Settle ...down

Settle as in to accept the conditons/options left with/remaining

Down as in lower, less, beneath, under, less than

So is this to say you accept the lower conditions u are left with? Are you just taking what's left in the barrel for keeps because that's your last resort?

I for one will no longer use the phrase for it has extremely negative connotations. Making a commitment to someone shouldn't be expressed as 'settling down.' It should be celebrated in a way to show this person's love/ commitment for another person....that he/she is mature enough to make this conscious, informed definitive decision in choosing a mate.

This phrase is a subconscious manipulation of the unity b/w man and woman. It's a complimentary unity and is supposed to be a purposeful decision, not 'picking at left-overs' of your life. I just think we should be more mindful of the diction we choose to use. Words have SO much more power for which we give them credit.

That is all