Thursday, November 18, 2010
Peace my darlings...
Let’s talk about vulnerability. Here’s what it is ...and what it isn’t.
“The Powerful Unknown”
Vulnerability is not….
Truth: All human emotions/vibrations are based on either love or fear. Nothing else. No grey area. One or the other. Truth: Love & fear can’t exist in the same space.
Poor vulnerability, always getting a bad rep (or is it rap?). It’s looked at as a weakness when it is quite the contrary. I think we’ve wrongfully associated vulnerability with fear when it’s actually one of the purest forms of love. The negative connotation associated with vulnerability is purely fear-based. Fear, essentially, is a four-letter word we’ve assigned to the negative feeling/vibration (False Evidence Appearing Real, or so, somewhere I read).
We’re TAUGHT to put up walls. (What baby YOU know has animosity or a grudge or a chip on his/her shoulder? Lol). Walls are born from personal experiences, hearsay, eye-witness accounts, expectations, age, media, “the norm,” rumors, stereotypes, generational/familial influences...and the list could go on and on. It is our RESPONSIBILITY as mature, self-aware adults to teach ourselves to take them down. These walls (self-protection methods) cause more pain and suffering than there absence. Walls are quite debilitating, if you think about it. Don’t mistake them for strength.
..::THINK ABOUT AN ACTUAL WALL::..
It’s strong, sturdy, provides protection, creates barriers, it keeps things inside (preserve) meanwhile stopping (deflect) others from entering.
Think of YOUR “wall” as an emotional dam. You are single-handedly stopping the flow. The flow of: possibilities, experiences, love, freedom, strength, truth, self and many other aspects of your well-being. Negative energy is released when walls/guards are let down. It opens up the space for a free flow of pure, boundless, filter-free love.
The importance of awareness in the equation.
You need be aware of yourself, your thoughts and your emotions. In most cases, you naturally/instinctively are vulnerable then you ALLOW fear to interject, THEN the “protection” arises. Walls are build. Relationships slowly and unconsciously become relationshits. *shrug*
The importance of resilience in the equation.
Shit happens! We have to be able to repair self in order to move on. AGAIN, a little (or a lot of) introspection never hurt anybody. Be truthful with yourself. Take accountability for your faults. Learn from them and move on to the next lesson.
Let your guard down. Break your dam. Allow yourself to BE. Be vulnerable. Be free. Letting go is essential to your happiness, peace of mind, and overall well-being. It can be uncomfortable. In my mind, it’s supposed to be. Nothing worth having comes easily. Vulnerability comes natural to us, we just have to make the CHOICE to embrace it. Homework: I’d like for you to be aware of your emotions and thoughts as they arise. Notice when fear is present. Notice your “auto-self-protection” mode that you habitually enter. Intervene. Choose vulnerability. Choose openness. Choose freedom.