Serenity Prayer

This is a little something that my mother introduced me to years ago. Not sure if you've ever heard/seen it, but it can be applied to SEVERAL circumstances. Some (crazy) people have it tattooed on them. Just buy a poster! lol

Sometimes we get lost in thoughts, emotions, situations, people etc. We have to be wise enough to know "when to say when." That place where knowledge stops and wisdom begins...

#TeamNatural

Here is an amazing news story on going natural.




I immediately thought of this when I saw the little girl in the story



THEN tie in this performance and ALL THINGS Black Girls Rock! (including but not limited to: the mission statement, the award shows, the impact, and global coverage thus far)



It's a good day to be a black girl. There is hope for my future daughters yet. :) (Well there's always been hope but it's refreshing to have these images shown on a national scale in this day and age)

Peace Beauties.

The Beauty of Vulnerability

Peace my darlings...

Let’s talk about vulnerability. Here’s what it is ...and what it isn’t.

Vulnerability is….
Freedom
Love
Truth
Strength
Openness
Release
“The Powerful Unknown”
Self
Awareness


Vulnerability is not….
Fear
Naivete
Negative/Bad
Weakness
Threatening
Powerlessness

Truth: All human emotions/vibrations are based on either love or fear. Nothing else. No grey area. One or the other. Truth: Love & fear can’t exist in the same space.
Poor vulnerability, always getting a bad rep (or is it rap?). It’s looked at as a weakness when it is quite the contrary. I think we’ve wrongfully associated vulnerability with fear when it’s actually one of the purest forms of love. The negative connotation associated with vulnerability is purely fear-based. Fear, essentially, is a four-letter word we’ve assigned to the negative feeling/vibration (False Evidence Appearing Real, or so, somewhere I read).

WALL SHATTERING
We’re TAUGHT to put up walls. (What baby YOU know has animosity or a grudge or a chip on his/her shoulder? Lol). Walls are born from personal experiences, hearsay, eye-witness accounts, expectations, age, media, “the norm,” rumors, stereotypes, generational/familial influences...and the list could go on and on. It is our RESPONSIBILITY as mature, self-aware adults to teach ourselves to take them down. These walls (self-protection methods) cause more pain and suffering than there absence. Walls are quite debilitating, if you think about it. Don’t mistake them for strength.

..::THINK ABOUT AN ACTUAL WALL::..
It’s strong, sturdy, provides protection, creates barriers, it keeps things inside (preserve) meanwhile stopping (deflect) others from entering.

Think of YOUR “wall” as an emotional dam. You are single-handedly stopping the flow. The flow of: possibilities, experiences, love, freedom, strength, truth, self and many other aspects of your well-being. Negative energy is released when walls/guards are let down. It opens up the space for a free flow of pure, boundless, filter-free love.

The importance of awareness in the equation.
You need be aware of yourself, your thoughts and your emotions. In most cases, you naturally/instinctively are vulnerable then you ALLOW fear to interject, THEN the “protection” arises. Walls are build. Relationships slowly and unconsciously become relationshits. *shrug*

The importance of resilience in the equation.
Shit happens! We have to be able to repair self in order to move on. AGAIN, a little (or a lot of) introspection never hurt anybody. Be truthful with yourself. Take accountability for your faults. Learn from them and move on to the next lesson.


Let your guard down. Break your dam. Allow yourself to BE. Be vulnerable. Be free. Letting go is essential to your happiness, peace of mind, and overall well-being. It can be uncomfortable. In my mind, it’s supposed to be. Nothing worth having comes easily. Vulnerability comes natural to us, we just have to make the CHOICE to embrace it. Homework: I’d like for you to be aware of your emotions and thoughts as they arise. Notice when fear is present. Notice your “auto-self-protection” mode that you habitually enter. Intervene. Choose vulnerability. Choose openness. Choose freedom.



Peace.

J

"Jahkil" lol. :)

From me to you,

..::Dear readers, please excuse me while I put a smile on my King's face while I'm away::..

Baby, I love you and can't wait to see you!!!



but wait, there's more....

Long time! I miss thissss!!!

I miss blogging! I really do.

Life happened. I don't normally blog about me, but I'd like to offer an update/reason for my absence. And the only reason I haven't deleted the entire blog is because I believe knowledge&wisdom is infinite and has infinite possibilities. I personally, don't like seeing "stale" blogs so I'm just splashing a little sparkle on mine so it's not AS stale...

I'm working. Starting a business. Most of my life is spent eating, sleeping, working, researching. I love all my blog followers, visitors and net surfers who land on the site.

Little tid-bit.





If you ever want to know more about yourself, I recommend you check your birth/natal chart. It is an astrological tool that requires information such as your date, TIME and location of your birth to tell you things about yourself. NOTHING like the daily horus-scopes. It's like your fingerprint... It will only be about YOU! It's based on how the stars were aligned on the day & time you were born ALSO intertwined with the longitude &latitude of that manifestation (birth). POWERFUL STUFF! THEN, do the knowledge about what it means when which planets are in which sign for YOUR chart. DEEP!

TAKE IT A STEP FURTHER by keeping up with the planetary alignments and shifts as then happen. Prepare for them. Notice their effect on your mindset, emotions, sexual drive, moods, etc.


Point is.. it has opened up a new realm of "understanding self." It's our ancestors knowledge and I stand by THAT any day!

The Art of Letting Go

Peace,


There are events in our lives that we wish never happened. We've all been there. I just want to remind us that it is perfectly fine/normal/encouraged to "LET IT GO."

The pain may remain, but the event is now long gone. It's time to learn from it, grow from it, and become a stronger, wiser individual from here forward. I'm not saying there shouldn't be time to mourn our loss and/or pain. But that "time" definitely expires.

In an earlier post, I talked about the word regret and how we shant use the term. Im still a firm believer in this. We have to embrace all situations that are brought into our lives as lessons, without any exceptions.

How do you "let it go"?

Simple: Accept it as a lesson. Honestly, accept it as a lesson life wants/wanted to teach you. You have to believe this in your heart of hearts in order to move on. From there, you can dissect it to see what lessons are being revealed. Get creative. Big lessons, little lessons, they're all in there. NOTE: the lesson may not reveal itself immediately, but it will in due time. In the end you'll be thankful more than anything else.

OK....
that's my "living in a rosy world"/piscean answer.

But the truth of the matter is, each situation is different. Each person is different. There are MANY variables in the process of letting something go, both big and small. The core of my advice is 1) introspection never hurt anybody and is the key to self- mastery and 2) life provides lessons that we tend to overlook.


That is all...


Here's a few expressions we all know and love/hate:

1) Don't cry over spilled milk.
2) Build a bridge and get over it.



How can you drive a car forward if you're always looking in the rearview mirror?


Peace.


PostQuotes:
“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” – Dr. Seuss

"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward."- Author Unknown

"Some think it's holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it's letting go." - Sylvia Robinson

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell

You Can Be a Star!!!

Hey Lovelies,

Janelle's Monae's beautiful and smooth voice can lend some inspiration those for us who need it. You may not want to be a singer or even a celebrity per se, but this is still a source of inspiration. Apply this to whatever you have brewing inside of you: any goal, aspiration, passion, and/or dream you may have. I know you have one...or a few! We're born dreamers!

Enjoy!

AHA Moment: Perspective

Peace Queens,

I had to share this with you all.

So my book club is reading Hill Harper's "The Conversation." A book about black relationships. This man drops gems "all up & thru" this book. Pick it up! I'm not sure if I'm late or WHAT! But this message resonated with me. I've heard it several times from several outlets but this time it was heavy!

In the chapter "The Language of Men," Harper mentions how his friend wasn't raised around men so she may not be able to speak "the language of men" with ease.

The Aha moment happened just in that small reference. I, too, was not raised around men so this makes SO MUCH SENSE.

I have a limited perspective on "the language of men," the way in which they communicate, small idiosyncrasies, etc. Things that make men, men. The types of things a young girl would notice, recognize, learn, absorb, then subsequently understand as an adult woman. As an adult, I now realize that this "language of men" may be confusing, misleading, or foreign, but as long as I am cognizant that there IS an inherent difference, I open myself to possibilities, growth, understanding, and love. There ARE differences. No one's better or worse, just different. THIS is what I admire, respect, and appreciate. And in some ways, find beauty in. *swoon*

This is where I come to you all to spread the word that we have to be knowledgeable of where our point of view/awareness/understanding has its limitations. It will alleviate so much (potential) pain and confusion. From this, we can gain understanding and consciously push ourselves to have more patience with our brothers.

There is beauty in our differences. We just have to be willing to learn what they are, understand them and show compassion. THEN we can move forward, grow, create legacies and take over the world...but I digress. :)

Books like "Act Like a Man, Think Like a Woman" and "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" are sharing a similar message, but for some reason that small reference hit me in a special place.

Whether I'm late or not, I'm glad to have made this discovery/epiphany/overstanding. Life is all about those anyway, right?!

Peace Fam!

xoxo

Choose Happiness

Greetings everyone!!

Just a simple reminder for you to choose happiness. Whatever that means in your life. Choose it on a small scale as well as a large scale. I ascribe to the philosophy that if you choose happiness in the smaller decisions in life, you will undoubtedly create happiness in the long-run. It makes logical sense.

..::side note::..

(Re)examining or discovering what makes you happy may be a good idea

Metaphorically speaking, if you're following driving directions correctly, you will DEFINITELY reach you destination. If you get distracted and/or deviate from those directions, the journey may become difficult, it will delay reaching the destination. And if you stray far enough from the "plan" or directions, you may never reach that destination (in this case happiness).

I hope that made sense.

Always remember that happiness is a conscious choice, it doesn't come automatic in life. You have to work at achieving it. There are ways to seek, cultivate, and maintain it. This is all relative to each person's life. To each her own....really. I recommend finding it within yourself rather than relying on someone/something else to provide it for you. This is to ensure it's sustainment. People and things come and go, but the woman in the mirror will always be there! :)

That's all for now.

Love yourself.

Peace

No "Good Black Men" Revisited

Sistas,

Before we form our mouths to say “there are no good black men” we need to look at this from a different perspective. Here, we’ll visit the socio-economic factors then we’ll go into personal accountability.

BUT FIRST: It’s one thing to want a man that meets your “standards” aka requirements and it’s another thing to have unattainable standards. Reevaluate those first. Accountability.

It is fact that black men make up the MAJORITY of the prison population (in comparison to any other race&sex) and the MINORITY of the college population. So while you’re getting your master’s master’s, he has been going day to day being “a black man in America.” With this comes a lot: racial profiling, glass ceilings, being over-looked for “good jobs,” “driving while black,” street influences, pressures from every-whicha-way be they psychological, physical, emotional etc.

You HAVE never, and WILL never, walk a DAY in the life of a black man so beware of how you speak of these Kings. Being the advocate for personal accountability, I recommend that we be more conscious of the prejudices we place on our brothers. Check yourself before pointing the finger at anyone.

Maybe you get “dogged” because there is something in YOU that allows that to happen in your Queendom.

Maybe you can’t find “a good man” because of the places YOU’RE looking. Being uber-selective is a gift and a curse. Blinders can only leave you blind; blind to someone good for/to you.

You should know what a good woman is BEFORE you go looking for a “good man.” Know how you should be treated and why you deserve it. That will weed out SO much. Build yourself up before seeking your reflection. BE a Queen if you want a King.

Maybe YOU’RE not ready for what you’re looking for (emotionally, psychologically etc.)

I say all this to say, we should be more conscious of our thoughts, words and actions in reference to our brothers. The “easy way out” is to point the finger. Think about all the of the circumstantial factors before making such a powerful statement about the men with whom our legacy is dependent. There is no us without them and vice versa.

Peace & Unity.

This is a video I came across. I'm not in TOTAL agreement with all of the claims in this video, but I dig where the brother is coming from. Take a look.